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GET CLOSER TO YOUR FANTASIES: a 'talkshop'.
E-mail = jimstewUK2@hotmail.com
SESSION AS DESCRIBED IN ADVANCE:
How to make your wildest erotic fantasies more potent in the privacy of your imagination.
Would you really want to turn a favorite dream into a ‘reality’ - if so, what can you do the make it happen?
Practical ideas for getting fantasies into focus.
Different ways of communicating your specific preferences to other people
Open up some new horizons for yourself and others in this interactive brain-storming session.
Jim Stewart is an experienced explorer of what he calls ‘The Theatre of the Mind’s Eye’ but he is also a realist.
Come
share your successes, failures, frustrations and dreams.
SESSION NOTES:
Not a lecture - discussion steered in direction you want it to go -
but perhaps some fresh ideas to complicate your lives.
1. What you came looking for = this session – LIL in general?
2. Sexual fantasies = limitless, uninhibited by practicalities, dreams - or something more realistic.
3. Fantasies or objectives = discuss the difference?
4. Solo or shared experience – what are your options?
5. Vocabulary and communication skills = word values to different people
6. Icons - clichès – stereotypes = how we use them how we view them.
7. Audio-video support = photos - video - audio-tapes - internet - future technologies
8. Role playing - scene playing - all ‘theatre’ = discuss
9. BUT - Knowing your own mind = Ingredients - specifics - focus
10. Get closer to = make more tangible = make more potent
Audience’s expectations – this will decide where most time is spent:-
Informal ‘hands-up’ session = admit to sexual orientation or preferences = ASK
currently have partner? - or unconnected?
exclusively ‘straight’? - or ‘Gay” (for want of a better word’?)
bi or mixed activities imagined?
exclusively lesbian - or male/male only?
open to sexual experiment if circumstances were right?
MAYBE TWO OTHER QUESTIONS (men imagining .....? women imagining ....?
limitless dreams = uninhibited by space/time/safety/political correctitude (Criminal acts? - see fiction)
OR - more focused - practical - down-to-earth =
Audience wouldn’t be at LIL if not doing something about their fantasies
Mental voyeurism - or are you involved in scenarios you imagine?
Remain solo = independent and uncompromising - or looking to share if and when?
The nature of fantasy = COME BACK TO THIS TOPIC LATER -
Imagining = Theatre of the Mind’s Eye.
Precise terminology - a topic I keep returning to
Fantasy = comfortable. Reality = dealing with hard facts - EXAMPLES
Danger of tarnishing a beautiful dream when reality intrudes on fantasy
Experience a fantasy - find a new one?
Objectives? = how realistic are expectations? in terms of personality + socio-economic + family ties + work schedule
What are you doing about achieving it?
Private and personal fantasies - when turned into some sort of reality ... start to be ‘shared’? ...
Visualising and imagining together - or looking for ‘contributors’ to personal scenario?
Togetherness = WHAT? slave to someone else’s fantasies - mutual interests - mutual support- service industry
Reciprocation - switching - helping hand - bondage buddy - dreaming together
Vocabulary - (precision of) - nitty-gritty of communication
Difference between turn-on and total turn-off = explaining distinctions
Ingredients - chemistry - cooking - pick and mix
Knowing your own mind -= sharper focus
Julie Andrews list = “These Are a Few of My Favorite Things”
Names of the games - read the fiction - write the fiction = all explain favourite turn-ons to others?
The ‘media’ & reality - “We Love S&M” story by Sally Barrett
Iconography and fetishism
Personalities or depersonalised
Sex with strangers - familiarity - trust and risk-taking COME BACK TO LATER
Domestic intrusion - DEAL WITH IN ROLE PLAY
Having too broad a canvas - diffused imagery
Selecting parameters - for session or encounter - whether magined or real
Game plan per session - card games
Limit equipment - space - time
Loss of focus mid solo fantasy
Visualisation and imagination support =
Intensify solo more than shared experiences
The Theatre of the Mind’s Eye - more solo.
JOINT SCENARIO PLANNING - TALK ABOUT LATER
First - Fiction - personalised - also in terms of responsibility = content ‘safe sane!!’
Photos = personification of an abstract - drawings -
Commercial videos - home-videos = points of departure - big topic - “Houdini Connections”
Technology - home publishing - montage - collage - storyboards
Down-loads and paste-ups (mental or physical) - computer based?
Internet - WHOLE EXTRA TOPIC = IF TIME ALLOWS LATER
Availability of information on obscure ‘special’ interests - contact.
Personal Ads and Internet = a new form of fiction?
Chat room - safely learn what other people do and think - FLAMING.
Not dishonest = embodiment
Play acting or personality adjustment - CITE EXAMPLES
Identity -familiarity - anonymity - taking a vacation from your everyday self
Image substitution in the mind = hollywood - no insult
Scene playing - suspension of disbelief - out-door scene playing
Tokenism - stylisation - fetishism - symbolism
Flexible scenes and open ended stories - shared scenes - helping out = not orgies - Central Casting
Too detailed wish-lists or specific demands
Fun from pre-planning = deciding posibilities - limits/constraints = ...
... space - time- equipment - SO ENJOY planning to find-make-buy + actual buying-making-testing-REHEARSING
Working towards an event = a scene in itself - solo or shared - helping hands - secret - with outsiders
... if not previously covered under “audio-visual’ ... INTRODUCE “SCENARIO” PROJECT?
Imagination = fantasy = objective or not. Enjoyment = stronger focus
Communication = knowing the name of the game. - precise vocabulary = clear in your own mind.
Writing it down - talking on internet or phone - before face to face? - sounding boards - not only one in the world.
FOLLOWED BY DISCUSSION SESSION
This is essentially a discussion document.
Feedback on the web page http://www.houdini-connections.co.uk/4-info/Topics/get-closer.htm
is always appreciated.
The topic has been expanded with correspondence on related topics at
http://www.houdini-connections.co.uk/4-info/Topics/story
building.htm
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